December 19
Happiness
As the end of the year is approaching and the "best wishes" tsunami has started, I remember reading a very nice booklet called "The Happiness Equation". I would like to share the gist of it. Good time of the year to do this, I believe.
Based on an old Chinese saying, happiness can be deconstructed in three things: someone to love, something to do and something to hope for. I think there is a lot of truth in it. We all need love and hope in our lives. Freud already pointed out that mental health requires the ability to love and the ability to work. In two words:
Someone to love. For everyone to fill in ... but I am sure human beings need relatedness. Attachment and affiliation contribute to individual self-worth and self-esteem, and so feeling well.
Something to do. Work links a person to a community. It adds purpose, stimulates our senses. Being able to make a difference, to contribute make us feeling well.
Something to hope for. Hope - or alternatively dreams - is a vital source stimulating us to move ahead. It can be fragile and easily broken but we need it to feel well as well.
I found reflecting on the happiness equation is an interesting exercise. And the holidays - as always - are a good period of reflection. I hope the happiness equation will give you food for thought over the coming days.
I wish you a very healthy and HAPPY 2009!
Chris
Based on an old Chinese saying, happiness can be deconstructed in three things: someone to love, something to do and something to hope for. I think there is a lot of truth in it. We all need love and hope in our lives. Freud already pointed out that mental health requires the ability to love and the ability to work. In two words:
Someone to love. For everyone to fill in ... but I am sure human beings need relatedness. Attachment and affiliation contribute to individual self-worth and self-esteem, and so feeling well.
Something to do. Work links a person to a community. It adds purpose, stimulates our senses. Being able to make a difference, to contribute make us feeling well.
Something to hope for. Hope - or alternatively dreams - is a vital source stimulating us to move ahead. It can be fragile and easily broken but we need it to feel well as well.
I found reflecting on the happiness equation is an interesting exercise. And the holidays - as always - are a good period of reflection. I hope the happiness equation will give you food for thought over the coming days.
I wish you a very healthy and HAPPY 2009!
Chris
